tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post9184754842931068173..comments2024-02-13T06:23:16.777-05:00Comments on Adopting M.E.: Not what I was expectingMary Ellenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14416798580398814009noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-84306044364036704122008-11-26T12:48:00.000-05:002008-11-26T12:48:00.000-05:00Wow. Just wow. Hugs! The whole situation sounds...Wow. Just wow. Hugs! The whole situation sounds so hard. Hopefully some more questions will be answered in the end. They will lead to even more questions. Hopefully the most important ones will have answers.Shelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12851446861098955538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-14160507200380245342008-11-25T14:27:00.000-05:002008-11-25T14:27:00.000-05:00I guessed the married part too. I bet your mother ...I guessed the married part too. I bet your mother was miserable having to give you up but knew she couldn't do it on her own. People were not as understanding then.katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17344546666806346254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-72596436809318200412008-11-24T21:33:00.000-05:002008-11-24T21:33:00.000-05:00Wow that's shocking. I can definitely understand ...Wow that's shocking. I can definitely understand how that can be earth shattering! Thanks so much for sharing, yours is an amazing story! :)Odettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10793858002476113533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-44199072885528356932008-11-24T19:40:00.000-05:002008-11-24T19:40:00.000-05:00I am happy that you are starting to get some answe...I am happy that you are starting to get some answers and hopefully a lot more of your questions will be answered in Jan.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-63742118307851072122008-11-24T19:26:00.000-05:002008-11-24T19:26:00.000-05:00Reading through this post I am amazed at the stren...Reading through this post I am amazed at the strength and courage it takes to write about this trying time. How jumbled up your emotions must have been. I am so happy you will finally get the answers you deserve after so many years of questions and lack of information.Cupcake Blondehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10588999664483664504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-72620886305681989162008-11-24T16:09:00.000-05:002008-11-24T16:09:00.000-05:00I, like everyone else, will be counting down the d...I, like everyone else, will be counting down the days with you too until January. <BR/><BR/>I know that information left you with a LOT more questions, but be thankful you at least got a LITTLE bit of information out of it. At least you had some information to tide you over until the time comes when you can find out even more. <BR/><BR/>I was like one of the other commenters, after I read her age, I figured it had something to do with him being married. I am sure that was SO looked down upon back then. <BR/><BR/>So, if/when you find out both your real parents names and if they are still living, are you going to try and meet them, is that the goal here? I just wondered that because it sounds like your father didn't really have a part in this other than making you, so I wondered if you would want to meet him too or if he even knew that she had gotten pregnant?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14903843380724148691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-72988423455296794222008-11-24T12:32:00.000-05:002008-11-24T12:32:00.000-05:00Oh, hugs for the little girl inside you who was so...Oh, hugs for the little girl inside you who was so devastated.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03707312160893238672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-6615353876008980232008-11-24T10:04:00.000-05:002008-11-24T10:04:00.000-05:00Wow...thanks for sharing.Wow...thanks for sharing.Bogarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03239349739202059474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-59695219773795820792008-11-24T09:30:00.000-05:002008-11-24T09:30:00.000-05:00This makes my need to count with you more and more...This makes my need to count with you more and more driven. <BR/><BR/>I cannot imagine being on your side of the single piece of paper. So little information, so many questions.<BR/><BR/>I thank God I had a family for my baby that would make it known who I was - eventually.<BR/><BR/>I was going to post my story today - it has been sitting in "edit" mode since October 8th. But now I am thinking I should reschedule it for January 2nd... We shall see.Lipstick Junglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10337519219488384852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-55211375239197850402008-11-24T09:08:00.000-05:002008-11-24T09:08:00.000-05:00As soon as I read that your birth mother was 24, I...As soon as I read that your birth mother was 24, I guessed the scenario was exactly what it was. Back in those days, I cannot even imagine the judgments that were made then!<BR/><BR/>I cannot even BEGIN to imagine the way you felt upon reading that SINGLE sheet of paper; I cannot even BEGIN to imagine what that 24-year-old young woman went through, leading up to that single sheet of paper. What I CAN begin to imagine now is why this quest is so important to you. <BR/><BR/>I suspect I'm going to be counting down the days with you...kim-dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11650811256788756378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-8161729356095883792008-11-24T09:05:00.000-05:002008-11-24T09:05:00.000-05:00WOW your non identifying information was alot MORE...WOW your non identifying information was alot MORE than mine... mine was half assed medical history and that was it. <BR/><BR/>my mother was 20... my father was in his 30's was married with 3 living and one deceased children...(found all this out later) <BR/><BR/>When I was 11 (again found out later) my mother married my father... in 84 they had another child a girl... their LC (last chance) to have a family. <BR/><BR/>ALL of the dreamed up senerios and all the things I ever thought NEVER EVER included my parents marrying each other... I was shocked and astounded and for a while angry a bit jealous I am sure .... but i do believe you will find more and more things that you thought or expected just are nothing much like the real situation. TIGHTEN that seat belt ... :) HUGSSSSSSSSSSSS LauraLaura ~Peach~https://www.blogger.com/profile/06436851234824883774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-70539355966812654442008-11-24T08:02:00.000-05:002008-11-24T08:02:00.000-05:00And, for you language aficionados out there, "hoet...And, for you language aficionados out there, "hoet" is Dutch for "honest"<BR/><BR/>God Mondays are soooo ASSAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00830525553830638384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-54705144373593566282008-11-24T07:00:00.000-05:002008-11-24T07:00:00.000-05:00The underlying theme of our adoption "training" is...The underlying theme of our adoption "training" is how far adoption has come. It was reinforced over and over again that it used to focus on the mother. Almost solely. The attitude was that the woman (and in some instances the man's) privacy be guarded at all times. Now, it's all about the child. Particularly the birth and ancestral history, and there is a concerted effort to place the child with relatives first - any relatives, from cousins to great great aunts.<BR/><BR/>I sound like a rep from DHHS, but I thought it contrasted your experience greatly. And to be hoet, I think these changes have occured over the last 40 years because of children growing up and fighting so hard just for medical histories and hitting a wall at every turn.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00830525553830638384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6608430877565126289.post-6551643275086338852008-11-24T05:22:00.000-05:002008-11-24T05:22:00.000-05:00Wonder if that's a universal theme... John's firs...Wonder if that's a universal theme... John's first round of info he received from the agency he was adopted through left him with far MORE questions than answers.<BR/><BR/>HallieWonderful World of Weinershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12704174092907120103noreply@blogger.com