Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Question of Time

Some of the questions that you asked just begged to be grouped together. Here's one group.

If you could meet anyone in the world, who would it be?
Who would you love to have dinner with?
My birth mother.

If someone called and said that your birth mother was dying and asked you to come to her side and ask her one question, what would it be?
Who is my birth father? I'm kind of sorry about it, and I wish there was another question I could ask - something a little more, uh, sensitive - but that's the answer. If I truly only had time for one question, it would have to be this one. She is the only person on earth who knows the truth. If she never changes her mind about talking to me, the bottom line is, I'll never know.

What one other thing would you want to say to her?
Thank you.

Assume that your fantasies came true and your mom showed up on your doorstep today. You invite her in and offer her a drink. Then you settle in. Assuming that she is open, what are the three most burning questions you would ask her?
If only this scenario would happen! Maybe, by putting it out there in the universe, it will come true. Everybody, concentrate on that part of the question: Let my birth mother contact me, write to me, call me, show up at my house. The more positive thoughts, the better.

Back to the burning questions. Obviously, the first one would have to be 'who's my bio-father?' just because she's the only one who can answer this.

Next, I'd probably have to ask about other children she may have had. One of my heart's biggest desires is to connect with siblings. I've talked about my wish for a sister before, and the want never goes away. Did you have other children, before or after me?

The third question? This one's harder. Sometimes it seems like there are a million things I want to know, but I guess it all boils down to this:

Will you tell me the story?

I want to know about that time in her life. It's probably cheating to ask this question, since there are so many questions within. What was her situation at the time she found herself pregnant? I know she was single, pregnant by a married man, but I want to know more than that. Was she living with her parents anyway, or did she have to move back in with them? Did she have to leave her job? Did she live at St. Andre's Home for a long time, or did she just go there to have the baby? How did she decide to give me up? What was it like to surrender a baby? How did she feel afterward? Did she ever think about me?

The chance to ask her anything is something I dream about. I only pray that day comes, soon. Before it's too late.

16 comments:

AirmanMom said...

I pray you know this day as well!
~AM

Midwest Mommy said...

I am praying this comes true. She has to come to her senses and talk to you. She has to.

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

We will hold out hope until we have reason not to. And we are NO WHERE near that point.

Great answers.

Hallie :)

claudia said...

I hope and pray each time I see your blog on my computer that your birth mother will change her mind and call or write you. It has been great to get to know my son. It has been freeing. I wish I could talk to her and tell her how much she will gain by coming forward and letting you know what you need to know. (and how wonderful it would be to get to know you)
I'm sending it out to the universe!
Love Ya!

Laura ~Peach~ said...

been there asked all of that and got half truths....and grateful to know however and i hope and pray she comes around someday, i was gonna ask a question along these lines but thought it was rather personal so i did not... maybe i will in an email or something like that. hugsssssss

for a different kind of girl said...

I hope you get the opportunity to have these conversations one day.

Alice said...

Sending good thoughts/vibes to the universe that you get your chance. You never know when God is going to answer one of your prayers.

Becca said...

really that woman needs to have a heart and contact you. have you tried again? maybe you should have Hallie call her again?

Sarah Laurence said...

I feel your pain and longing. It is so unfair. I hope one day you’ll get your answers.

Nichole said...

You have the right to know all of these things. This is wrong...very very wrong...but since she is religious maybe you should use a little Christian persuasion. Maybe remind her that God chose her as your birth mother. The least she could do is share with you the knowledge of the circumstances of your birth and the other info you seek. We are all judged by god in the end. She can show you this little bit of compassion if for no one else but him.

Odette said...

I hope that you'll be able to ask all these questions too! After all I think by now we're all dying to hear the answers as well!

Yaya said...

Thank you for sharing these with us. I know this must be such a hard battle for you, but in your sharing this it has given me a greater understanding of what our (future) children will be feeling and wondering.

Caution Flag said...

I never really thought about that before, but most of us do know the story of our beginnings. It's so much a part of who each of us is. But without it, there would be a terrible void. I'm praying for both of you. It's hard to imagine the void in her life that she could so easily fill by knowing you.

Joanna Jenkins said...

Those were tough questions. I hope someday you get answers.

Lori Skoog said...

These were all excellent and relative questions. It would be so great if this could all work out for you.

Vegas Princess said...

I am hoping you get a chance to ask all those questions one day!