Some of the questions that you asked just begged to be grouped together. Here's one group.
If you could meet anyone in the world, who would it be?
Who would you love to have dinner with?
My birth mother.
If someone called and said that your birth mother was dying and asked you to come to her side and ask her one question, what would it be?
Who is my birth father? I'm kind of sorry about it, and I wish there was another question I could ask - something a little more, uh, sensitive - but that's the answer. If I truly only had time for one question, it would have to be this one. She is the only person on earth who knows the truth. If she never changes her mind about talking to me, the bottom line is, I'll never know.
What one other thing would you want to say to her?
Assume that your fantasies came true and your mom showed up on your doorstep today. You invite her in and offer her a drink. Then you settle in. Assuming that she is open, what are the three most burning questions you would ask her?
If only this scenario would happen! Maybe, by putting it out there in the universe, it will come true. Everybody, concentrate on that part of the question: Let my birth mother contact me, write to me, call me, show up at my house. The more positive thoughts, the better.
Back to the burning questions. Obviously, the first one would have to be 'who's my bio-father?' just because she's the only one who can answer this.
Next, I'd probably have to ask about other children she may have had. One of my heart's biggest desires is to connect with siblings. I've talked about my wish for a sister before, and the want never goes away. Did you have other children, before or after me?
The third question? This one's harder. Sometimes it seems like there are a million things I want to know, but I guess it all boils down to this:
Will you tell me the story?
I want to know about that time in her life. It's probably cheating to ask this question, since there are so many questions within. What was her situation at the time she found herself pregnant? I know she was single, pregnant by a married man, but I want to know more than that. Was she living with her parents anyway, or did she have to move back in with them? Did she have to leave her job? Did she live at St. Andre's Home for a long time, or did she just go there to have the baby? How did she decide to give me up? What was it like to surrender a baby? How did she feel afterward? Did she ever think about me?
The chance to ask her anything is something I dream about. I only pray that day comes, soon. Before it's too late.